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Tips for Life’s Journey: Along the Camino de Santiago de Compostela
Posted on August 23, 2015 at 3:48 PM |
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My
husband, my daughter, and I embarked upon the journey of a lifetime early this
summer from June 13 through June 23, 2015. In celebration of our 30th wedding
anniversary, we set out to walk the last leg of the Portuguese Way of the
Camino de Santiago de Compostela. The route began in Tui, Spain with its
destination ending in Santiago de Compostela, traditionally the location of the
crypt and remains of St. James, the Apostle. This segment of the Camino is approximately
100 kilometers. The
history of the Camino de Santiago de Compostela dates back well over 1000 years
with Christians making this pilgrimage since the Middle Ages. Today pilgrims can walk, bike, or take to the
path on horseback with a variety of objectives in mind, particularly spiritual. A minimum of 100 kilometers by is required to
obtain a “compostela” or certificate
in Santiago. Proof is obtained by having
a credencial stamped along the way. My
reasons for undertaking this journey were largely spiritual but also for enjoyment
and celebration of my marriage. Some of
my own personal insights gained along “The
Way” include: The key to
accomplishing anything is perseverance. It is not about being the best, the fastest, the
smartest, the nicest looking, or even good enough; the key to success is simply
not giving up. The fastest person doesn't always finish the race. A slow and steady pace is particularly relevant
for the long haul. One can quickly lose
steam along the first few kilometers and deplete reserves needed to last the
entire 100 kilometers. Drinking up all
of the water and eating all of the granola at the first leg doesn’t get one very
far. I have often heard of individuals
in counseling say to me that it took them “a long time” to accomplish
something. I am always quick to add, “But
you did it!” So if it
takes several years to get a bachelor's degree or even a doctorate; so if it takes
a long time to get a promotion at the job; so if it takes forever to clean
through your living space; so if it seems like it is takes forever to find a
soul mate. Whatever the situation might be--
don't give up--persevere. I always say,
if at first you don’t succeed: Pray, cry,
and try again! Don’t fret falling down but more importantly learn
to get back up and carry on. Don't get discouraged at the prospect of a fall,
but be encouraged at being able to get back up again. I didn't actually fall on
the Camino but the fear of falling definitely slowed me down. There were many slick surfaces, rocks to
climb, and paths to maneuver. Life in
itself has its series of slippery slopes that need to be conquered. The classic mark of a procrastinator is the
fear of failure. These types often do not even get past the starting line. But
the fall isn’t the problem nor the worst part of it. Remaining face down in the mud is. The
challenge with most addictions is being able to stay the course even after a
relapse. A cupcake binge should not get
one permanently derailed from a diet. Get
back up, shake the dust off, and then proceed the course. And if it happens to be an issue of a sinful
nature, Catholic Christians have recourse to starting anew through
participation in the Sacrament of Confession.
The old saying goes that Christians are definitely not perfect, but they
are forgiven. Isaiah 40:31: They that wait upon the Lord shall renew
their strength. They shall walk and not be weary. They shall run and not faint. It’s just as hard
going downhill. The hills on the
Camino were definitely challenging. Some
went on for a couple of miles or so. Climbing a hill can be extremely exhausting
especially when the temptation to turn back presents itself. But just as in life, there is no turning
back. One thing I quickly discovered is
that no matter how tough it was going up, going downhill was not any easier. It is a joy to arrive at the mountaintop. But
all roads do not end at the summit. What
goes up must inevitably come down. I
quickly discovered that a different set of leg and knee muscles were required
to make the descent. Life has its peaks
and valleys. We are presented with
unique challenges in each scenario.
Perhaps there are many uphill battles.
But it’s never all uphill. And we don’t necessary gain momentum going
downhill. Some of the worse crashes
occur at the foot of a mountain. Lives
can sometimes snowball when we don’t know how and when to put on the brakes. I remember in my days traveling in the Smokey
Mountains of Tennessee there would be sand banks along the side of the road for
runaway tractor trailers. The descent
must be made at a slow and steady pace. It’s not only all
about me. One principle taught in running a business as
well as learned in walking the Camino is that any group is only as fast and
efficient as its slowest member. In our
little walking trio-- the holdup would be me. My 52-year-old pace served as a
ball and chain for my 17-year-old and even my husband. However later on in the journey another’s
upset stomach or someone else’s toe blisters became concerns and affected our
progress in other ways. One has to learn
to be concerned with the disabilities and shortcomings of each other on the
same journey. If one of the members of
the group only has the capability to walk 10 kilometers a day, then the maximum
for that group is only 10 kilometers a day.
Productivity becomes a team effort. If one wins, we all win. If one is incapacitated, we all become
incapacitated. It’s in everyone’s best
interest to look out for each other. Be open to the
kindness and advice of others. One
encounters a lot of strangers along the Camino that become friends along the
way. Fortunately these days it is much
safer than back in the Middle Ages where pilgrims were often attacked, robbed,
and left for dead (thus necessitating the building of the Reyes Catolicos centuries
ago in Santiago which began as a hospice to help those who had been injured). Over the course of several days we encountered
many familiar peregrines. It’s important to be willing to accept help
from others, to be willing to ask for directions, and to be willing to give
assistance. But there is one caveat: Be careful about asking directions from a
cross-eyed person in a foreign country who doesn’t speak your native
tongue. We were trying to locate the
birthplace of St. Anthony of Padua when in Portugal and almost became lost
trying to find the patron saint of lost things!
Something got mixed up and lost
in the translation and we found ourselves going in the opposite direction. So the lesson here is to exercise prudence in
discerning good advice. On the other
hand, when we were in need of a taxi on another afternoon and asked a restaurateur
to call one for us, he volunteered to take us himself and he even tripped on
the pavement on the way to his vehicle.
Upon completion of the journey he refused to accept any form of payment. We were very grateful for his generosity. We heard
all sorts of advice about preparing and going on the Camino. My advice: it is all relevant and helpful. Just like in life those who have gone before have
something to say to us to help along the journey. It is prudent and wise to take their insights
into consideration. Small things
matter. For instance see
how long one can walk with a tiny rock in a shoe. Paying attention to detail is very important
along the journey: the weight of one’s
daypack is can make a significant difference.
Someone I know on the journey decided to bring three books along the
daily walk. After a day of lugging all
of that extra weight, that same person decided that only one book would suffice.
Be prepared but
also be willing to embrace the unexpected.
Getting lost once in a while is part of the journey. The best laid plans can run amuck. Fortunately most of our journey was under
sunny skies and the paths were well marked.
But we did have to contend with a heat wave that hit throughout that
part of Spain and dealt with temperatures that approached near 100 degrees F. We carried extra rain ponchos in our packs
but never had to use them along the Camino.
Most of our meals and lodging were planned ahead of time but we did have
occasions when it was difficult to find a place to have a bite for lunch and
dinner was often past 9 pm when we were used to eating at 5 or 6 pm at
home. I have often heard that the most
successful people in life are those who are willing to roll and adapt to the
curves and changes in life. Don’t expect to
lose in 7 days what accumulated over 7 years.
One hope
in walking 100 km was that I would lose a lot of weight. But the Camino is like in life. A temporary change in one’s physical activity
might cause a temporary weight change but permanent results don’t occur unless
there are permanent changes. This can
apply to whatever changes one wants to make in life. We have to be committed for the long haul. Have a goal. Figure out what motivates you. Having a goal and dividing it up into smaller
accomplishable tasks is helpful. We
would walk so far in the morning and then have a pre-determined amount of
distance to go in the afternoon. Often
as the morning dragged into the day, I looked forward to stopping along the way
to have a cappuccino or charcuterie at a certain milestone. Taking small breaks along the journey is
important. We often would pop into
Churches to cool down, admire the architecture of the buildings along the way, take
in a breathtaking view, or engage in a water break under a shady old bridge. But finally don’t
forget that the process of the journey is just as important as the destination. For some reason the Camino brought back
memories of my pregnancies. I carried
two healthy children to term. Although
each pregnancy was not easy and was full of challenges, I enjoyed each moment
of the process. Thanks be to God, at the end of those two pregnancies I experienced
the full joy of giving birth to my beautiful children. But at the same time I experienced some nostalgia
at the remembrance of the precious time of carrying them in my womb. I felt the same way about the Camino. With my Compostela
in hand, I was excited to have reached the final destination but simultaneously
was a little bummed that the journey had come to a conclusion. There were so many sites, experiences, and
friends that were encountered along the way. I actually wouldn’t mind going on
another Camino! The Good
Walk. There is a manner in which Pilgrims
greet each other along the Camino: “Buen
Camino!” Which in Galacian translates
as” have a good walk” or can even take on deeper meaning in signifying, “follow
the right path.” Fortunately it was a
very good Camino indeed! Much can be said about discerning the good path and following God's will in our lives! |
A Faithful Person's Prescription to Overcoming Procrastination.
Posted on August 13, 2013 at 4:11 PM |
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Recently I ran across a 5-step prescription for beating
procrastination (Burns, Ten Days to Self-esteem, 1989): 1.
Don’t put
the cart before the horse. Instead
of waiting for motivation, get started.
Action comes first, and motivation comes second. 2.
Make a
specific plan. Instead of telling
yourself you’ll get started one of these days, make a specific plan. Would you like to start today? At what time?
What will you do first? 3.
Make the
job easy (little steps for big feats). Instead of telling yourself you have to do it
all at once, decide to do just 10 or 15 minutes of the task. Break the task into small steps, and remind
yourself that you only have to take the first small step today. 4.
Think
positively. Write down the negative
thoughts that make you feel guilty and anxious; substitute others that more
positive and realistic. 5. Give yourself credit. On the surface, the
process above seems plausible enough. Upon
further examination, however for those desiring a faith-based approach, there
are a few important issues left unaddressed.
Here is a revised “ faith-based” list of steps to overcoming procrastination: 1.
Pray
before even attaching the cart to the horse. Ask for God’s guidance and the ability to
discern His will for the situation. Be
willing to have an open heart for whatever the solution might be. God has three answers: “Yes”, “no”, and “not yet”. Most of us have problems with the “no” and
the “not yet.” 2.
Follow God’s
plan. At first, praying and waiting
might seem to only add to the procrastination.
A priest once told me, “God is slow.”
I was taken aback by such a statement but the more I meditated on it,
the more I realized the issue at hand: God
is not bound by time, everything happens as the Word speaks. Desiring our answers yesterday, our finite
small brains have a tendency to measure and magnify each second as we occupy
this universe. But the truth of the
matter is that even if we have to wait the duration of our entire life it is
but a speck when viewed in the Light of Eternity. 3.
God makes
the job easier. I agree that we do
have to take little steps, especially if we are children of God. A baby doesn't learn to walk by first
running. We can take comfort in knowing
that we have a Heavenly Father and Mother who can catch us if we happen to fall
along the way. A big component to why
people procrastinate is fear of failure.
If we allow God to come with us on the journey, we don’t need to fear
failing. This is what taking a leap of
faith is all about. 4.
Think
guilt-free. Are there are any sins
obstructing your path? Remember, there
is nothing that a good Confession cannot take care of. The best way to have an open heart to God’s
voice is to clean that heart of any junk that may have accumulated. 5.
Give God
the credit. Remember, humility is
not putting oneself down. It is
realizing who you are in light of God’s creation. Praise God for whatever the result might
be. In everything do your best with
whatever grace is given to you. Be at peace in leaving the outcome to God. Even if that outcome on the surface appears
to be less than optimal. Surely, I wait for the LORD; who bends down to me and hears my cry… Blessed the man
who sets his security in the LORD, who turns not to
the arrogant or to those who stray after falsehood.You, yes You, O LORD, my God, have done
many wondrous deeds! And in your plans for us there is none to equal you.
(Psalms 40:2, 5-6). |
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